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Hi there, people! I am sorry for my bad english, but i hope that you will have no trouble understanding what i am trying to say. I want to tell you my story and ask for advice, and i hope maybe someone can help me with it...
Today i tried to register on one of the dating websites for gamers (i will not name it because on gamespot forums people banned me for doing it with reason "SPAM or Advertising", so i ask moderators here to READ full post before doing something against me, please), but i get only errors while trying to do this. Then i saw a message on the main page, that tells "Got a story? Tell us!" and e-mail, so i think - what bad can happens if i write them my story? And i wrote this message to them:
"Hello, i got a story for you. My name is Andrew, i am 24 years old, and, unluckily for me - i am living in a small town in Ukraine. I am disabled person, and because of that i cannot find any work in my town, nobody wants to hire people like me, also government refuses to pay me unemployment benefit because i haven't working anywhere. I cannot move out from here even to big town because my family are deeply in debts, and all the money i can get going on to pay money to the banks.
And also i don't have a girlfriend. Never kissed, never even touched somebody. Why? Maybe i am ugly? Well, it is not for me to judge, you decide:
(i will not add links to my photos yet, because i do not know how moderators will react on links and i do not want to get banned here too, but if they are ok with it - i can add photos later)
But most likely i am just boring to all the local girls, because my passion is cats, and... imaginary universes. I like to read books, watch movies, and play video games that can provide me with great story with some twists that i will remember, heroes that i would love and hate, world, that i would like to explore. I always dreamed about finding a girl who will share my passion, so we can play games together, watch movies while hugging each other, walk trough the night town, stare at the dark sky and share our dreams, thoughts and impressions with each other, even do some traveling on our foot in real life... I was hoping to find a partner for my adventure, to share this life with her.
But if some of girls from my town are interested in games - then this games are sims or some flash mobile arcades. They have a different ideals of life - most of them dreaming about lots of money, house, car and children, and when i say that i do not want all of this i becoming a monster, someone who should never born in this world to them. They say that all the women in the world will never be with someone like me, because they always have a better option. There is also different kind of girls - they like parties, social activities, sports, and since i dislike being in the groups of people they have no interest in me. I tried to ask - if anyone, at least one girl can like me? I do not care about how beautiful they are or what they do, or what they wear, i just want same interests as i have, something to talk about, but trough social networks i could not find anyone like that in my town. Seems like nobody needs trash like me.
And then i saw your website. And i was thinking - maybe in another countries and towns i can find what i want? Yes, we cannot meet because of distance, and i already accepted that i will never touch a real girl in my life, but maybe i can find some understanding online? If i could at least talk with the lady who shares my feelings, maybe it will be a little easier to live with this all... So i tried to register at your website for gamers, and i got this error when i press "join now" button:
(here was screensoot with "url not found" error)
So, maybe the site is bugged, or i am doing something wrong, or it is some invisible force that will never allow me to be happy at least for a minute in my life? I don't know, you tell me, please."
This was the end of my story. And guess what i got in response?
"A message that you sent could not be delivered to one or more of itsrecipients. This is a permanent error. The following address(es) failed:"
Then i tried to talk about it on gamespot (i do not know any english sites for gamers except that because of some videos from there on youtube), and i get instantly banned there for "spamming", as i told before. I hope that my story here will not end the same way, but... maybe it is really some evil forces of nature working against me, and they have only one purpose - to not make me feel happy even once in my life...
But if someone will read all this, what should i do? Search for working dating sites for gamers (if such exists), or forget all this and live the rest of my life alone with my cats?
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Couldn't have put it better myself.
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I'll let you into a secret. Straight from one of these mythical girl gamer types. We can't resist a spammer. Spamming forums is the only true way into our hearts.
So keep doing what you're doing in the knowledge that none of us can really resist.
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Spamming means "i love you" in jargon speak
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Oh, it really is *swoons*
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I think i better keep my achievement/trophy score a secret then.
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I think you've made a few assumptions about girls.
Cats it is, then.
Realtalk though as I'm in a bit less of a rush and can elaborate on exactly why you're on a swift path to catdom (sorry, but I fail as a big sister if I can't be a good big sister to absolutely everyone, even supposed spammers): you sound a bit... geez I dunno... self pitying, and in a really bad way, not that there's any good way to be self pitying. Don't be like that. Girls don't like that. And yes, if the first thing you're going to do coming on a new website is complain about how no girls like you, or share your ideals, or whatever, don't expect to be received warmly by anyone. I'm sure you're a nice kid, but you're coming off as terrible right now just by lamenting so much about your issue. And not all girls are like what you said. Surely there must be someone in your town who is more serious into games. And yes, a lot of us want children, a house, money, a garage full of supercars, etc., but some of us are more than willing to go out and earn three of those four things on our own. It's the 21st century anyway. We're not expecting a man to provide for us in every way. You've got to put yourself out there more. Maybe this means going out to parties and forcing yourself to be social. Or maybe trying to meet people on a website that isn't for dating, because it's nice to have friends as well. And hey, maybe if you meet someone online, you'll gain the confidence to meet someone in real life (just don't f*ck over the person you met online because you found someone else. that's equally as deplorable as being all mopey about no gf without even trying, maybe even worse.) Other than that, I don't know little bro. It sounds like you have a fair bit of growing up to do before trying to get with a girl.
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The sad thing is that there is hundreds of boys in my town that want a gamer girl or any girl at all. The message board for dating is full of them - some even desperate that much that they saying that they are looking for any girl or at least man in girls wearings...
And what is funny? There are 0 messages from girls like that. There is no girls in the world who are unwanted like man's are. We are something like trash - if we say "take us, anyone, for free" - nobody will even look, and if girl will say that - no matter of how she looks and how smart she is there is always will be a lot of people who will want her...
And this is sad. Being a trash is sad. If i was just another gender - i would not have that problems at all, i would have an army of people who want me to choose from.